In my voyage on earth as a human being, I am yet to see a perfect man and every person that has attained near perfection seems to be going through one challenge or the other. These challenges could come in many ways and lead to a lot of habits that are worrisome even to the perpetrators or these acts. Some of these worrisome habits include; living in bitterness, womanizing, masturbation, covetousness, stealing, etc. I acknowledge that no one is perfect and also, that everyone is only striving towards perfection because, we keep failing and learning from our pitfalls. However, the problem with many people is that they refuse to change their way of life or thinking even when they discover that they are overtaken by one of these problems or challenges. Today, I will therefore be focusing on the problem of masturbation and maybe, you are masturbating and want to stop but find it difficult then, I hope my suggestion and approach may be of help to you greatly. Now, remember that it is knowledge applied that brings result thus, the diligent application of these suggestions will surely bring you out of masturbation and it will not fail. How do I know? Because, I tried applied it and it worked for me. This is the basis of my strong affirmation.
I must say that it becomes a very hard thing to stop masturbating, especially when you think of the pleasure you get whenever you get involved in this act. However, when you think of the repercussion it can bring to you as a person then, you have no choice but to apply this guide. I came to a point where I became very angry with myself after I masturbated and wished I never did but was disappointed because, I found myself masturbating again after one or two days. It is very sad to contemplate that it was when I had affirmed vehemently and confidently that I will never commit this act again that it still happened nonetheless before my very eyes thus, I know how it feels my brother. It was devastating and heartbreaking for me to notice that I went back to the thing (masturbation) that I made a vow not to engage in it again. I became restless, it dawned on me that I had to stop masturbating by all means: I became obsessed about this and one way or another, by shear dint of divine providence and mercy, I stumbled on the method that released me from masturbation forever. I suddenly discovered that all the while, I had used the wrong approach. I mean, I have been prayed for and I have also made restitution to no avail, it only got worse but once the right approach is not applied then, the result may not come. Maybe, you are in the same situation like I was and want to get out of it then, this is for you. I also realize that someone’s food can be another’s poison thus, I hope this helps with yours.
I started masturbating while I was in secondary school, I got associated with some boys who talked about girls and their experiences with the said ‘girls.’ They told me the skills they employed and how they had deflowered a lot of girls. These stories got me thinking and I asked a lot of questions but they only answered in subtle ways that made me desire to have the experience. Now, I came from a godly family and my parents taught me godly virtues and I intuitively knew that it was wrong to commit fornication with a girl you are not married to. The result was that I found it hard to engage a girl for any escapade like this but I kept listening to their gist about their exploits which gradually corrupted me to start masturbating since I couldn’t commit fornication with a girl. Indeed! Bad company corrupts good manners and I came almost every day to listen to their gist and thus, masturbated the more. I continued masturbating for some time and I discovered that seven years had gone past like the wind leaving me in serious masturbating and pornography viewing. Oh! I now discovered that even saints could play the devil if not properly guided. I say this because, I was considered to be the saint amongst them, they usually say things like, “Leave pastor alone, he will not understand.” I mean, I sang in choir and claimed I hated their stories but enjoyed it nonetheless. I claimed I didn’t like their stories but I never left them when they were discussing their exploits. If I may ask; if you don’t enjoy a thing, will you continue to go and sit down to listen? I guess no. Therefore, I give you this admonishment that you should never listen to stories that arouse your emotions when you are not yet prepared to start a genuine relationship that leads to marriage because, it may end up in masturbation.
Now, I would like to take you straight to my approach to getting out of masturbation. The first step is the realization that it was not your fault to have masturbated. Yes, I know a lot of people would attack me for saying this but I am giving you my approach because, I remember blaming myself for masturbating every time and it still didn’t help me. I only continued to remain in a sorry state, feeling dejected and without courage to take the right steps to change thus, you heard me right, “stop blaming yourself for masturbating in the first place. You just have to realize that the past is passed and the future is before you now and it is what you do with today that will determine what your future will look like. It is true that you masturbated in the past or you are still masturbating now but it is still true that you can change the narrative today to become free from masturbation as soon as possible. It is when you refuse to change now that it would be entirely your fault thus, change today. Yesterday is a cancelled cheque, tomorrow is a promissory vote and today is the only cash you have, so spend it wisely says Kim Lyons.
The third step is the total cut down on the watching of pornography and listening to gist from friends about their sexual exploits with girls. The simple fact is that if you continue to watch pornographic films and hope to stop masturbating then, you are just a joker. This is because, masturbation thrives on these acts, they are the fuel that triggers this unholy emotion which leads to the touching of your vital organs and hence, committing of the act of masturbation. Now, this can come in many shades. For example, I remember most at times, I woke up and didn’t experience any erection and thought something was wrong with me and wanted to check if I am still active as a man and before you know it, I had masturbated already. Sometimes, you can be watching a pornographic film or video and after watching with your friends; you return home and you start processing those thoughts (scenes) which surely results to masturbation (action). I will therefore, employ you to cut totally from watching any pornographic films or videos as this would go a long way to help you stop masturbating. This reminds me of something and I want to say it as a caution and that is, never touch your manhood (genital) anytime you are taking your bath (shower) or else, you must masturbate.
Fourthly, confide in two or three persons if not more. That is, tell two or three of your friends or someone you hold in high esteem that you are involved with this act of masturbation. I acknowledge that this is usually hard to do because, you realize that these people see you as someone who couldn’t be involved in something derogatory as masturbation but if you want to stop masturbating then; you have to tell them that you are a masturbator. Always remember that you are on the process of getting free and I would like to add that there is something you must never forget because, this will help you to execute this task successfully. Always remember that these people (friends) you are telling your ordeal to; also have a lot of hidden problems themselves. I remember telling one of my friends that I am a masturbator and want to stop but it is becoming a challenge for me to stop. He told me, he is a masturbator as well and that he has tried coming out as well but it has become a challenge for him too to stop. Thus, you may end up helping each other instead of thinking that they will hold you in bad light or esteem you lightly. On the contrary, they would respect you for choosing to confide in them and will give you suggestions that may be helpful to you as well. Only remember that you are following my prescription for now because, it will not fail you as long as you are really truly tired of masturbating. It has helped a lot of my friends and it will help you too.
Lastly, I wish to say here that we can do anything we purpose in our heart to do thus, take that resolve today to stop masturbating and if you are firm on this resolution and put the steps mentioned above into cognisance and practise then, you will see yourself overcoming out of masturbation. Now, even if you masturbated one or two times in the course of practising these steps, don’t give up but continue to strive for the mastery. However, if you practise these steps for two month and discover that you still have the urge to masturbate then, know that a spirit is influencing it and thus, you will have to pray to God to help you come out and if you are sincere with your prayers, He will help you and you will be free from masturbation. Remember that you can choose to blame a lot of people for the wrong in the world but you can never change the ills or wrong if you refuse to take responsibility thus, take that responsibility today to change the course of events in your life. If you can think it, you can do it.
Please, share your views in the comment section. I will be here to respond to some questions I may not have addressed in the article and if there are other steps you know to be of help then, drop it below. Thank you
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